Causes of divorce

Causes and Consequences of Divorce
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Causes and Consequences of Divorce
In the United States of America, approximately 41% of all first-time marriages will end up divorcing. The risk even grows higher for all second-time marriages to around 60%. The risk continues to increase for all third time marriages to 73 percent. There are different reasons for divorce. For example, some people marry at a very early age, therefore, unable to handle and manage marriage challenges (Papps, 2012). Other people live together before marriage hence causing future mistrust in their relationship. Some divorce because of money issues, infidelity, sexual libido differences, interference of ex-partners, or children from former marriages. Other causes are interference from parents. Also, some partners may be unhappy in the relationship, poor communication, physical or emotional abuse, lack of commitment, or inequality in the relationship. Likewise, alcoholism and or addiction issues, parenting arguments or issues, premarital pregnancy, one or both partners coming from families that experienced divorce before, unrealistic expectations, a partner feeling insecure, lack of religious affiliation, less education or changes in a woman’s role can cause divorce. However, people should try their best to save their marriage. The reason being some of the separation problems are minor, whereby the couple can discuss and fix them on their own or with a counselor’s help. There are several effects of divorce on the parents and children.

The main focus for writing this paper is to discuss the reasons why people should not divorce.
Divorce is always stressful to the children because most of the time children do not want their parents to divorce. Divorce weakens the relationship between the child and the parents. The reason being immediately after a divorce the parent is more concern about adjusting to their new life and the new roles they have as divorced parents. Consequently, It makes the parent forget the child, leading to lack or less communication with the child, which interferes with their relationship. A child from a divorced family may face economic difficulties such as changes in their diet, clothing, forced to reduce their involvement in extra curriculum activities in school or even compelled to switch to a different school because they have to rely on one parent’s income for all their needs (Root, 2010).
Divorce increases the chance of the child to suffer from behavioral and psychological problems. For example, separation enhances the likelihood of the child to become troubled, which makes them angry quickly, violate rules, and even disobey those in authority. Research shows that divorced family children suffer academically such as their grades drop and are more likely not to complete their high school studies (Whyte, 2000). Similarly, they are more liable to be involved in early sexual activities, drinking alcohol, and abuse drug compared to other children from married homes. Other kids from divorced homes tend to suffer from prolonged sadness. Some might become anxious, depressed, or over responsible as it becomes their responsibility to take care of their parents. Kids from divorced families are more liable to be involved in crime or be imprisoned at an early age. The child may feel abandon when the father or mother seeks for a better relationship. Research shows children from divorced families are more likely to experience the same cycle of divorce when they get married as their parents. Divorce can cause the child to have problems relating to other kids of his age. It may cause the child to give up quickly when faced with a problem. Also, the child may end up making wrong choices on relationships when they become adults. Some kids suffer from emotional wounds that can continue during their adult life. Some end up having low self-esteem. Studies show they have high chances of trying to commit suicide compared to other children from stable marriage families.
People who get divorced are always unhappy and have low self-esteem. They have high chances of developing depression. They feel guilty, shameful and rejected because of the divorce. Divorced people tend to withdraw themselves from close friends (Poortman, 2002). They may have problems discussing their fears and feeling even with a close friend who is willing to support them. It causes pain to the divorced person who was not expecting the divorce. The divorced couples may have difficulties making important decisions and concentrating in whatever they are doing. Some feel they are not worth and contemplate suicidal thoughts. Others experience changes in their appetite such as overeating or loss their appetite. Other divorced people experience sleeping problems such as excessive sleep or insomnia. They lose interest in some of the activities they enjoyed doing. They feel hopeless and sometimes blame themselves for the divorce.
Financial divorce can lead to a decline in the family living standards. Legal separation procedure can also deplete the financial resources of both the wife and husband. It can force the divorced partner or both to work in several places to be able to meet the family needs. It can lead to the family member that remained in the house to be evicted since they are unable to pay the rent. Also, the mother may fail to receive financial support from the father’s child causing her to struggle meeting her needs and those of her children (Clarke-Stewart & Brentano, 2006).
Statistics show that the chances of a person getting divorced keep on increasing. Divorce leads have several effects on both the parent and children. There are several reasons for divorce. However, some of those reasons could be shared, discussed, and resolved. Therefore, if it is possible people should try to solve the causes of divorce to have healthy and happy marriages.
References
Papps, T. G. (2012). The ei8ht reasons for divorce: Why marriages fail and how to ensure that yours doesn’t. Wilkes-Barre, Pa: Kallisti Publishing.
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Whyte, M. K. (2000). Marriage in America: A communitarian perspective. Lanham, Md: Rowman & Littlefield.
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Clarke-Stewart, A., & Brentano, C. (2006). Divorce: Causes and consequences. New Haven [Conn.: Yale University Press.
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Root, A. (2010). The children of divorce: The loss of family as the loss of being. Grand Rapids, Mich: Baker Academic.
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Poortman, A.-R. (2002). Socioeconomic causes and consequences of divorce. S.l.: Interuniversity center for social Science theory and methodology.