narcissistic personality disorder

Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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Abstract
A narcissistic personality disorder is a common condition across all ages. The severity of the disease varies but some of the most common symptoms include an exaggerated sense of self-importance, need for excessive admiration and belief that they are superior to others. The implications of Narcissistic personality disorder are commonly seen in the social aspect of the community like school, family, and relationships among others. This essay analyses the consequences of NPD on relationships. As is evident in this analysis, narcissist tends to be aggressive whenever their partners criticize them which lead to abuse either physically or emotionally. Narcissistic individuals do not take criticism lightly and tend to be more abusive as a way of making them feel superior to their counterparts. On the other hand, however, some researchers posit that being in a relationship with a narcissistic person is more enjoyable at the beginning of the relationship. The study thus concludes that the relationship is not safe for anyone.
Keywords: Narcissistic, emotional abuse, healthy, disorder, personality

Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic individuals tend to show aggression whenever they get negative feedback. Since narcissistic individuals have a high opinion of themselves, any form of negative feedbacks or questioning what they do would result in aggression. The aggression according to the author are of different types, that is the victim may verbally or physically abuse the one questioning him or giving the negative feedback.

When it comes to relationships, narcissistic partners may overreact to even slightest questioning or negative feedback from their partner. The reaction as mentioned earlier may be in the form of physical or verbal abuse which severely affects relationships. Physical or emotional abuse affects the individuals in the relationship, in most instances the victim walk away but if they stay then the torture both psychological and physical breaks them. Emotional abuse in relations among the narcissistic people’s aim is to elevate their self-esteem and to derogate their partners. The victims feel a sense of self-satisfaction when they make derogatory remarks aimed at making their partners feel less critical (King 2012).
Romantically, the author posits, narcissistic individuals tend to show controlling and over possessive behaviors. Some victims, the author posits are so much into popularity and success of their partners which would result in pressure. The search for success and self-gratification among the narcissistic individuals make them less concern about the feelings of their partners. Also, the victims may not be committed to their current relationship since they believe that out there are other perfect individuals who would suit them. Lack of commitment in a relationship would result in emotional abuse to the partner who gives it all to ensure the two survive. Also, a narcissistic would show little or no intimacy to the partner who would result in a feeling of rejection. Also important to note is the fact that most narcissistic people tend to compare their relationship to that of other people and try to make their perfect. Relationships have shortcomings hence trying to copy other people would result in unnecessary pressure on the partner. The idea of a potentially successful contact would result in the narcissistic individual flirting with other people while he or she is in a relationship leading in most cases to poor commitment. Slight questioning and criticism would lead to abuse either physical or emotional (Okada, 2010).
Even though some people enjoy the company of narcissistic individuals since they are friendly when it comes to relationships the victims are defensive to any form of criticism. If they cannot withstand criticism from strangers, the slightest kind of criticism from someone dear to them makes narcissistic individuals even more defensive. In most cases, narcissist put their partners in an awkward situation as they fear the possible outcome of criticism. A healthy relationship entails correcting your partner in case of anything wrong. This would not be possible if the partner is narcissistic. If they do not walk away, the partner’s opinion in most cases would not matter or mean a thing to the victim.
On his research, Lam (2012) denies that narcissistic individuals are abusive in their relationship. The author points out that there is some definite association when it comes to being in a relationship with a narcissistic individual. According to them, the victims are fun and entertaining and not as dull as other people and display some degrees of self-confidence. Some people consider the characteristics exhibited by the narcissists as fun since they do not lack drama. According to the author, relationship with a narcissist reported less dysfunction romantically. Most of the individuals, according to the research consider narcissistic people fun in a relationship compared to the non-narcissistic at the beginning of a romantic relationship. The author thus contends that the relationship would be satisfactory to the individuals once they accept and learn about the shortcoming of the others.
In a few words, narcissistic people tend to subject their partners to abusive relationships as highlighted in this discussion. Individuals in a relationship with a narcissistic person must be conscientious to avoid the emotional and physical abuses associated with such people. Even though it might be fun as the researcher points out, physical violence should not be tolerated.

References
King J. W. (2012). Narcissism in romantic relationships: an analysis of couple’s behaviors during disagreements. UK knowledge, 11(2).Lam, Z. K. (2012). Narcissism and romantic relationship: the mediating role of perception discrepancy. Discovery-ss student E-journal. Vol. 1, 2012.
Okada, R. (2010). The relationship between vulnerable narcissism and aggression of Japanese undergraduate students. 113-118.