Application Steps on Solvable Marital Problems

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Application Steps on Solvable Marital Problems
From the Six steps, step number two works best for me at the moment. This step talks of having a smooth start of an argument which will lead to a smooth end (Brigham Young University 1). In this step, a case can be controlled from the beginning to the end with an understanding between the parties. The step recommends complaining instead of criticizing, using I instead of you, being polite and expressing feelings instead of judging. I find this as the best step to solve problems because a clear expressed sense has good reception by the other partner creating understanding and hence better results (Leeuw 10). Since emotions are in most cases misunderstood, choice of words at the beginning helps to avoid criticism and negative attitude towards the conflict at hand.
I find having trouble with step number three which talks about making and receiving repair attempts. This step recommends attempting to stop an unbecoming situation which seems to get out of hands (Brigham Young University 1). The repair attempts according to this step can be actions or words which will switch the topic to something else for some time to allow partners to cool down. The words and actions can range from serious to funny for example using the word “stop” and touching a partner’s hand. I find it difficult to use this step in solving problems because of misunderstanding which it can read to the repair attempt made by partners. A partner can interpret an effort made as a way of running away from the truth, hiding a mistake or even mockery after being offended.

To solve this, I can decide to use other steps like compromise or identifying the problem and its cause, discuss it and have a solution together.
Works Cited
Brigham Young University. “Solving Your “Solvable Problems.” Foreverfamilies.byu.edu. N.p., 2018. https://foreverfamilies.byu.edu/pages/solving-solvable-problems. 3 Nov. 2018.
Leeuw, Jilynn. “Making Marriages Work: Common Factors of Marriage Theories.” (2015).