Otello’S Syndrome And Its Consequences

Otello’s syndrome and its consequences

Introduction

From the stone age to the 21st century, jealousy has wreaked havoc in interpersonal relationships. Historically they have been seen and treated as a negative and harmful feeling. However, a group of scientists and psychotherapists have reached a different conclusion;They consider that these are not necessarily harmful and that they can even become beneficial.

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Jealousy is a universal feeling that all human beings experience at some point in our lives. They are considered "a complex and involuntary mixture of thoughts, emotions and actions that are born when the jealous perceives that the quality of their relationship with someone is threatened by the presence of a third party". Most people consider it an unpleasant experience. Writers and philosophers describe it as a negative feeling. To some extent they are right, since it can lead us to hurt our loved ones because we consider them "exclusive property".

For the scientific community, jealousy has a purpose. They are an evolutionary tool to guarantee the survival of our descendants. The idea that jealousy is an exclusive feeling of immature or insecure people has no bases according to scientists. Therefore it is perfectly normal to feel jealous this does not mean that our relationship is suffering a bad time or that we are immature or insecure people.

So if jealousy is perfectly natural, and are not necessarily negative, how should we treat them? According to the psychotherapist Wolfgang Krüger, "the central knot of jealousy is the fear that the relationship is threatened".

That is why jealousy is not something that should be repressed. For Krüger, light jealousy is even a declaration of love and show that the other is important for one. That said, jealousy can also be harmful, when jealousy are uncontrolled can lead to involuntary injurizing our partner. These exaggerated jealousy are generally caused by extreme insecurity and dependence. According to Heyne, the best way to treat these unjustified jealousy is "to have an open conversation". In this way you can "invest in the couple" looking for "causes and solutions together".

Jealousy are not exclusive to couples, they can jealousy in different types of relationships. The important thing is the outsourcing of these feelings, we all know some jealousy story that has mortal consequences. That said, here also jealousy in moderate quantities can have positive effects. Unfortunately, most studies on jealousy are concentrated in love relationships, therefore our knowledge of these and how to verify our other interpersonal relationships is scarce.

Although both sexes can feel jealous in the same way there is a tendency that men concentrate on sexual infidelity rather than emotional and vice versa in women, this has a biological explanation, since the challenge that for the female of our speciesIt represents ensuring that a male invests enough time and resources in their children while in the opposite sense, the possibility that a female is pregnant by a male other than her partner is the biggest challenge of men. Of course this is from a purely biological point of view without taking into account the culture and situation of each individual. In other words, although both sexes may experience jealousy in the same way there is a predisposition to react differently from infidelity.

If it is thought that jealousy is "immature" then they should decrease with the age of people. The reality is that no, jealousy, particularly in men, do not decrease with age. Although this may have a simple explanation, since studies cited by Pink Silver do not take into account the woman’s age. This is because there is a trend in men to when their economic stability increases.

The negative effects of jealousy are widely known. From those who only affect the jealous to those who affect both. Unfortunately jealousy has a historical tendency towards physical and emotional damage. These negative effects are generally associated with a sense of ownership and excessive dependence of the couple, which leads to a thinking of "if it cannot be mine is nobody"

That said, jealousy can also have positive effects. For example, according to the psychotherapist Rolf Merkle, the individual realizes that his partner is attractive to others and that makes it more valued ”. In addition to this added interest a moderate number of jealousy can help keep the flame of a relationship over time.

conclusion

In conclusion, jealousy is a natural phenomenon. In moderate quantities they can make our partner more interesting and strengthen the relationship. That said, in uncontrolled quantities jealousy can have disastrous consequences. Therefore we must stop suppressing our jealousy, but maintaining strict control about what we feel, it is necessary to speak honest to channel these energies constructively.