What causes personal relationships to succeed or fail?

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Reasons Why Relationships May Succeed or Fail
Introduction
The true nature of human beings is socialization. Human beings are social in nature and would avoid living solitary lives at all costs. Having friends, work colleagues, relationship partners and any other person that can share information with another person makes human lives near complete. The social nature of the human lives have also influenced the way a man works, as people normally work together in organizations, thus the need for work colleagues. People make friends in all other places including learning environmental, student will have student friends, and in politics, politicians would need friends. However, many times such relationships breaks down and fail. However, some people hold on and correct the wrongs, giving the relationship a new lifeline. To some other people, relationships fail once, and it becomes non-repairable. It is, therefore, imperative to gain a fair knowledge and understanding of the factors that may make a human relationship fail, especially in a family where the people are not only socially and culturally bound together, they have blood relations. Notably, most relationships fail when the parties to the relationship refuse to accept that they are wrong and keep on pushing for their values on the other party regardless of the surrounding principles.
The compositions of relationships
There would be no relationship in one person as all relationships must have at least two people.

It is the people in the relationships who agree by mutual consent to make the relations work or to make it fit (Gottman 64). The causes of people entering into a relationship are varied, but in normal circumstances, they must have a common goal and must share some common values. People in the relationship must have talked with one another and have set out their relationship boundaries either by mutual consent or through the observations of social values and norms. In a relationship, therefore, there must be two parties involved, a goal to be achieved, values to be observed and communication leading to a mutual consent to relate. When any of these core components of a relationship are broken down, then the relationship would be bound to fail, but when each party holds to their values in the normal ways, then the relationship would be a success.
The Expectations of Relationships
Every relationship, therefore, would need one of the parties to break it down. In normal circumstances, each party has a role to play, based on the mutual and natural consent. The values that hold the relationship together should not be broken down by every party. There should be constant communication that helps in sustaining the value of the relationship. Moreover, the confines of the relationship, including the relationship norms and boundaries must be observed by both parties at all the time (Bott and Elizabeth 71). This is the case in the social as well as the professional relationships. Violations of the core relationship values, the relationship, is bound to fail. However, when the parties dutifully play their roles in the relationship, then it is bound to be successful.
Causes Relationships to Failure and Success
The Inability to Handle the Participants Ego
Every person has the aim to gain from the relationships that they sustain. The gains that the person may get from a relationship may be are material, or non-material. Business relationships have materials gains quantified in financial terms between the parties involved. Employees, for example, have a role to play in the development of the business profits that are used to reimburse their salaries. However, not all relationships have material gains. Other relationships have emotional values. A family relationship between husband and wife, or between children have strong emotional attachments that need to be achieved. When the parties involved do not allow the other members to gain the emotional attachment value in the relationship, then the relationship is likely to fail. Some members in a relationship, out of their ego, would like to gain more values from the relationship at the expense of the other partners (Fournier 348-9). The moment ego sets in any relationship, one party will feel exploited in relations to the possible gains. Some people may feel exploited financially, like in a business set up that has a rip-off system on the employees. In the family and other friendship set ups, emotional rip off would be possible if one of the parties in a relationship would like to gain more than the other party in the relationship. People are supposed to share either equally or according to the agreement that existed when the relationship began. Fournier notes that when any party extends the possible gain beyond the expected boundaries, the other party would feel exploited and pull out of the relationship (351).
Unrealistic Expectations
People who do not have achievable goals in a relationship may also make such relationships fail. Calling upon the partners in a relationship to perform duties that are beyond their control is a sure way to kill the relationship. for example one party calls upon their party to go out of the way to give them more benefits without a reciprocating gesture, the party pushed and stretched to the limits may not be able to achieve such goals. Continuous failure in achieving the given targets may portray one party to the relationship a less important member, and they may all out of the relationship. In a business setup, giving non-achievable expectations would be a way to create weaknesses in the relationship bond (Andrikopoulos 4). The same occurs in families where people may demand more than what the partner may give, thus portraying the partner as a failure, then they feel belittle and less important in the relationship. There are high chances they would pull out and break the relationship. Relationships that have manageable goals and objectives would be easier to maintain and become successful. The way in which the expectations are set and handled gives the relationship a lifeline to be successful or to make it failed (Andrikopoulos 11-2).
Failure to Achieve Goals
When people enter into relationships, there are goals that they set to achieve together through the relationship. For instance, in a business set-up, the goals can be the profit margins that the employers expected the employees to achieve. The level of performance that the employer may need at the end of a working relationship is a very important goal that should be achieved (Oly 86-8). However, an employee who nearly fails to meet the target on a daily basis may not be able to sustain the relationship with the employer over a longer period. Business relationships that are not meeting the defined goals are always abolished, thus leading to a failed relationship.
According to Dr. Gottman, psychologists, and a mathematician, human relationships may also fail if they are not able to meet the desired goals. The desired goals in a family set up relationship may be the need for children (70). If for some reason the family may not get the children they desired at the beginning of the relationship, them it would be difficult to sustain that relationship. In some other cases, a family may come together for economic good. If they desired to achieve a given level of wealth after an identified period, and it failed to be reached, then the family relationship may disintegrate. The doctor goes ahead to clarify that family that cannot resolve such goals differences cannot stand the test of time (72).
External Influence
Relationships are influenced by the environments in which they exist. This means that the environment has a direct influence on the nature and the quality of a relationship. The way the partners in relationship handles the external forces that would be in contact with their relationship influences the level to which the relationship can be a success or a failure (Goode 483-4). When the parties are aware of the external environmental influence and have created a proper way to either shield the poisonous comments of the external environment or to harness them for ten good of the relationship, the relationship can be a success. People need to handle the relationship influencers with openness and transparency properly. For instance, in business organization, the information that the employees have concerning the competitors can be harnessed for the befit of their organization (Anand 92). However, the external environment may also cause the organization to fail if it takes away the patents and the business secrets to the competitors through the employees.
In a family relationship Similarly, the external environment may influence the success or the failure of a relationship. When the members of the family allow the people who are not part of their family to influence their involvement in the family at the expense of their family members, the family relationship may fail as well (Schulze 104-8). For instance, a family son who allows the peer influence to change his character for the worse, and has no the family values may fall out with the family needs and ends up being excommunicated, rejected and fearful in participating in the family values. The manner in which the environment impacts on the family is very important to the success or the failure of the family relationships. This is true in all other social relationships that can either destroyed or made by the external environment.
Changes in a Personal Character
For various reasons, people may change their characters in the society. A person who changes their character can either make it better for the family cohesion or the family disintegration (Gomez-Mejia 88-9). The same happens in the business set up. People, especially the parties to a relationship which changes their values and character may have a bearing impact on the value of the relationship. Therefore, it would be important if the members of the relationship understand how well they can approach their changes in the perception of the relationship. People who negatively modify their social values and attitudes towards their relationships may make it worse off, and it may eventually break apart.
In a business organization, an employee may change their social character, thereby becoming truant, lazy, aggressive and lacking respect to the colleagues at work. If this were the case, they the employer would have no otherwise but to relieve such employees of all duties. In the family set up, for instance, children who develop antisocial behavior may not rhyme with their family members. They may, therefore, exhibit family values that are injurious, demeaning and unfounded (Gomez-Mejia 86). In such case, the social bond that ties the child to the family breaks and the family relationship would break.
However, some people have perfected the art of changing their behaviors, attitude and value for the god of their relationship. As a result, they can create stronger cohesion for their families and business activities. People who are initially having deviant social behaviors may change their attitudes to embrace social dynamism. As a result, it is possible they improve their social relationships with the people in their surroundings. If the change is directed towards the business set up, the profit will bound to rise with a more combined approach.
Communications Breakdown and Misunderstanding
Communication is the core of every social arrangements and relationship. A break in the communication model would cast any relationship into success limbo (Watzlawick et al. 9). Relationships whose members do not communicate often always have a hard time to pick up and be developed into much success. It is in this view that the business organizations set up and sustain a high-level form of open communication between the management, the employees, the customers and all other stakeholders to address and iron out any emerging issue. Communication models have a direct impact on the success or the failure of a relationship.
In a family, communication is equally important.one of the reason why people are in a family is that they can share emotions, problems and good times. People who always keep to themselves have higher chances of breaking up their relationships as their partners may opt to be able to predict their next moves, what is ailing them and possible how they would come in and help (Rath and Barry 105). Communication, therefore, when use effectively can help in addressing any emergent problems and make the relationship work in the most optimal way. People, as well as business organizations, must ensure open lie of communication with their partners if they treasure and value their relationship.
Conclusion
Relationships are very important in developing and living successful lives. People who have mastered the art of developing strong relationships can achieve all their desired values and goals from the relationships. Therefore, it is possible to benefit both from the business as well as the family relationship. The business relationships are important in developing materials gains, but the family reasons are important in providing emotional gains. However, not all relationships become successful. Some relationships may fail due to some factors. Lack of communications is one major contributor to the failing relationship in the society. The inability of some relationship partners to tame their ego is another way in which most relationship may fail. Impractical gals that a relationships partners may require the other to achieve, as well as the inability to achieve goals in the relationships, are some of the major contributors of relationship failures. It is, therefore, important that every society member develops a curate understanding of the relationship success and failure factor so that they can apply the strategies and the skills in their daily lives.

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