Processing Heartbreak With Music Help

Processing heartbreak with music help

According to El Heraldo (2012), "heartbreak is defined as a state of psychological paralysis, disorientation and emptiness". It is the moment in which a relationship ends and you have to get the idea that things change and that you will no longer be with the loved one. The heartbreak has its stages until it is overcome, since it is a loss that gives a feeling of failure, in which the low trust is presented as with the death of someone close and ends up presenting until hate towards the person who ismisses.

The breakdown or love rejection is normal, many of us pass at least once through that situation, just as we reject people;However, the one who is common, so most of us pass, does not take away the fear that arises in front of that situation, nobody wants to be rejected, nor to be abandoned and that fear manifests itself since a relationship begins. According to Fisher (2004), 2 stages are presented: the protest, in which "abandoned lovers try obsessively to recover their loveThroughout the process is the image or memory of the beloved and in the midst of the duel it is decided to resort to different means to bring sadness;This is where speaking with nearby people appears in search of support, drinking alcohol, listeningThey are affected in different degrees of intensity, being the long and lasting relationships that present much more pain than, when the relationship that has been terminated by ups and downs, with few pleasant moments and full of suffering and disagreement ”(El Heraldo,2012).

“Music is a universal communication language understood by all that connects the continents and overcomes distances and cultures. It reaches the depths of people transferring a feeling, an experience, an idea that, in one way or another, causes an internal movement in the human being ”(Pérez, 2018). So it is not strange that music is in the breaking stage, in genres such as popular or spite, ballads, rock, pop, etc. Music has a great influence on us and our feelings, listening to a song that we like when we are happy makes this feeling greater, as with a sad song making us feel even more sad, carrying in some people to crying.

In moments of sadness it is normal to see people in bars, taking while the music of spite sets the place, increasing the feeling and the desire to take to forget what is doing them miserable, while the lyrics of the music make them relive them one and the othertime that feeling. Achinte, A (2009), in his work he interviews a woman who comments why her taste for this type of music mentioning what "because with that music one can cry on mucus lying", also adding that "I believe sir, that life is like a soap opera, there is laughter and crying, there are love and disappointments, there are good and evil and Darío Gómez tells us all those things in their songs ”. And in a way it is right, in some way or another we are the protagonists of our life and the music environment every moment of this and especially accompanying these moments of sadness.

The rejection or rupture has been seen, seen and will be reflected in the different arts, for example, in painting with modeled or paintings, in cinema with movies or documentaries, in writing with poems and in musicWith the songs that help face these feelings, since it allows you to release all the anger and sadness crying, singing, even shouting letting those memories of the lost couple reflect as one more experience to the search for another couple, connecting not only withThe author of the song but to all, with the same feeling of heartbreak that transmits music.