Communication And Dialogue In The Family As A Key Factor

Communication and dialogue in the family as a key factor

What is communication in the family? If dialogue is important in the relationship between people, it is more important in the family sphere. Through communication we establish contact with people, we transmit our thoughts and feelings. In this sense, all, however different we are, we want to be heard, understood and taken into account.

Good communication is the key to maintaining good relationships inside the family and for the formation of the children. In this sense, fathers and mothers who communicate properly with their children offer them self-confidence and medium and long learning as well as favor that they perform healthy interpersonal relationships.

Children from their first days of life seek. Therefore, the communication that fathers and mothers develop in interaction with their child from childhood is of great importance. In it the foundations of an experience that will last a lifetime, and that will develop in the children, the feelings of security, trust, self-love that allow them to face life.

Having good communication and a relationship of trust in children, allows you to be more attentive to your needs and help in educational work. When you have a good relationship with children, they are more open to receive teachings, to share their problems with parents, learn to express their feelings, attitudes and desires and learn to establish satisfactory relationships with other people.

Remember that communication is not only "speaking", but we also communicate with our gestures, silences, tones, postures, etc. All these elements come into play when we interact with other people and determine that communication is good or not.

To communicate to the children what is considered important and valuable to have the opportunity to do so, that is, dialogue situations must occur. And it is understood that the dialogue consists of speaking but also in listening, not only in speaking. For the dialogue to develop the confidence of the children, it is necessary.

• Take them seriously, do not treat them as lower beings that explain things we are back.
• It should not take advantage of the occasion to lend them
• Listen carefully what they want to explain or ask
• Also talk about what interests them
• Perform joint activities
• Respect the opinion of others
• Know how to actively listen to others
• Use the sense of humor
• Admit when something is known
• Adapt to the child’s development level
• The sincerity
• Maintain visual contact

What do we want to know about family communication? What happens when there is no good communication, when there is no interest in talking about what happens to children in life, the problems that happen to us. When we are sad, happy, distressed, angry, confused etc.

Communication in the family is not always easy, due to lack of time, multiple obligations … and in another order, due to the different ages of the children and their different matures. Therefore, it is essential to dedicate as parents an exclusive time to each of them. And also, follow these 8 recommendations:

1. Much patience. That does not mean that you consider his bad ways and lack of respect and do not limit him.
2. Listen. It is vital. Understand and know what your child thinks about life, others, the same, after listening and understanding, giving criteria and guidelines that help him grow and mature.
3. Do not conflict with him. Tell him what you think about his behavior, about his friends, about his ideas. Obligate to listen to you and reflect what you said. Then you can talk about it
4. Be interested in your life without questioning. Sometimes it is difficult, but this is the line to follow. Put yourself in your place, you don’t like your husband or your wife "to question you" either. There is a difference.
5. Don’t turn your anxiety with him. You are worried that you will be dragged by friendships, that it worked badly, to take bad notes, to hurt yourself. Communicate it seriously, without "keeping it at bay" just in case. In that attitude are not the limits.
6. Help him communicate his emotions. That he knows how you feel your before a certain attitude of yours, and that tells you how he feels a specific fact, concern or decision of yours as a father.
7. Remove your moments of intimacy. You see him worried, but he doesn’t want to tell you what happens to him. Do not overwhelm it. But what do you know you can tell you for what you need.
8. Do not vent with him. It is one thing to transmit our emotions and concerns, and a different download with him. He is not trained, for example, to face and listen to our problems with our husband or woman.

Although for some people with the naked eye, the consequences of the lack of communication between family members may not be so relevant, the reality of the situation is that if they are

In fact, multiple are the studies which have been responsible for documenting that one of the first consequences is the separation of family heads, that is, the divorce of the parents.

Although this situation may not be so serious in some cases, specifically in those where the separation ends up being "good terms" and without large fights that lead to legal lawsuits that seem infinite, most of the time if it is onlyThe beginning of other nothing positive situations

Another consequence, whose severity will be greater or less depending on the explanation that parents give to children about separation, is uncertainty and the feeling of guilt;Why are they divorcing? It was my fault? Can I do something so that they don’t separate?

It is vital that children are very clear that the decision to make different paths is not their fault. Of course there are more consequences of lack of communication than a family separation.

The fact that dialogue does not flow in an appropriate way between parents and children results in emotional effects on minors, and even ends up affecting the way they behave.

Almost without realizing, they become more closed to talk about certain issues, while showing challenging behaviors, refusing to pay attention to the rules imposed by their parents.

In fact and almost inevitably, bad family communication ends up having consequences outside it, while we live in society.

Thus, house problems end up replicating and expanding to relationships at school, at work, and in general with any person we interact in our routes.

What did we learn? Communication is essential for training and balance in a family, the conflict is not only that the children are closed or that by traumas we do not want to live and interact with our parents, sometimes they are the ones who do not want to listen or do not understand whatWhat do we want or what we are looking for

Family relationships, due to the emotional and psychological ties that they develop among their members, and the safety and confidence environment that they can generate, becomes a means in which its members, naturally and spontaneously, can help themselvesand complement each other, satisfying many of their needs, specifically the deepest and most complex as emotional and emotional.

Recently, a 20 -year -old committed suicide. In the letter he left explaining the reasons for his decision, he mentioned that his life was not worth it because he realized that it was impossible to communicate with their parents, because they did not take it into account only considered it with someone who was there by accident andwho had to feed, maintain and tolerate. A dramatic and real case, which highlights the importance of family relationships in the development of emotional, psychological and the environment of trust and security, that every human being requires to make sense of their life.

The development of processes and forms of communication within the family, plays a vital role in establishing significant relationships for those who live in the family nucleus. There are studies that show that in most conflicting families there are serious communication problems, whether they have not developed mechanisms to favor the exchange of ideas and points of view, or that they have very little ability to communicate causingattempts that make to communicate, instead of becoming help mechanisms, become sources of new and greater conflicts.

Be clear that the family is a hierarchy of love, to end the recipe for communication in the family we must hear more and speak less, understand others and express ourselves with love and affection.

The family is full happiness that fills the soul ..

References

• Bilbao.Eus
• Make family
• Sunset Bay-Academy
• Guiainfantil
• Ecured