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Counselling Seminar
Introduction
I attended a session in our community on how to counsel the youths and individuals who have problems or challenges. The session was led by counseling experts in the area. They wanted the parents or the guardians to be able to counsel their youths before they become depressed by the challenges. The problems that the youth undergo is due to the indulging in bad behaviors or lack of proper parental guidance. The society requires morally upright people to preserve its dignity and development.
The counseling experts of the session highlighted the challenges that the youth undergo in their life and the emerging problems. They mentioned that the youth in the society are at a big risk of being misled by the modern technology and the reality TV shows (Hirschi, 370). The session was therefore aimed at maintaining the moral culture of the community and avoid mushrooming of vulgar people in the society.
During the session, I observed that the counselors stressed on how to handle victims with various problems and give them guidance with ease. They said that the guiding session by the parents should first identify the kind of the problems the young person is undergoing. Different approaches should be adopted when dealing with various victims. The criteria to be used is based on the degree or level of the challenge. The counselor should follow the counseling steps to correctify the victim. If the guidance is done well by the parents to their children, there will be the preservation of the culture and minimal occurrences of the immoral activities in the society.

This might be for the first time the parents are doing the counselings to their teenagers. The parents should teach their youth the danger of engaging in bad behaviors and limit the time they spend watching TV. The counseling experts said that the parents in the society can minimize the victims to be counseled by monitoring the activities done by the youth (Hirschi, 370). The best method for the parents is to sit down and watch the television together with their teenage children. It makes the parents monitor the behavior of the youth and prevent moral decay. The individuals who are going through counseling process might go through a process in which there are change and growth. This makes the individuals able to move from one stage to another in the counseling process. The counselors gave the steps to guide the victims as follows:
Stages in the Counselling Process
The individuals undergoing the counseling process must go through various stages in order to get the best result at the end of the process. The counselor is so aware of the hurdles and the challenges the victims might get between the first, middle and the end of the process. He or she must analyze those problems one by one consecutively. The counselor must be aware of the uniqueness of each victim and recognize them well because the therapeutic process varies from one victim to another. The victims should be praised as they proceed from one stage to another (Nelken, 220). This makes them feel self –esteemed of their efforts and commitment to change and having focus.
The first counseling process
The first stage of the counseling process should commence with very important impressions that the victim should gain from the initial counseling session. On the other hand, if the welcome is not sincere or it is abrupt the victim is demoralized and thus gains no relationship with the counselor.To make sure that all this attained the counselor should have hospitality and set a welcoming environment to send a good image to the individual. He or she must accept the victim as a human being, be willing to understand the victim and able to show honesty and openness.He should show the victim that he has nothing to take away from him but the aim is just to improve what the victim has. There must be hope that they will work together provided that the victim feels helpful and worthy while.
The counseling practitioner should ensure that he is able to make it clear that the individual has no any agenda that is specific or hidden at any level. To ensure that the practitioner should ask pending questions and show him that they have all the time to interact. The counselor should be an expert in a given field of psychology or a good problem solver and advice giver. This makes the victim to trust the counselor thus discloses all the hidden information.
The Middle Stage of a Counselling
This stage is characterized by the fact that the victim has the perspective of being open and willing to take the risks. The victim is ready to absorb any unpleasant or negative feeling during the counseling session.
On top of that, the counselor offers confrontation and challenge to some extent. The victim is confronted if he or she experiences accurate and empathetic reflections. This confrontation is for juxtaposing the perspective against another or just one part of the self against another. All this is done for the sincere respect and benefit of the victim.
Actually, the hardest things to predict is the speed of the process mainly for a trained counselor.Some of the victims progress very fast in the middle stage of counseling but other times the victim might get stuck or even undergo regression. The counselor has to be consistent on how to offer the key empathy conditions, congruence, and acceptance of all aspects of the victim.
As the victim undergoes through the middle stage, he or she becomes naturally healed and starts to reduce the urge to need the counselor.This starts to mark the end of the middle phase of the counseling process.
The final step of counseling
The victim becomes open and honesty at this stage and feels free to interact with the counselor.The victim might disclose all the information on personal insights and what he or she has gained from the beginning of the process. However, the person might change unnoticeably. He becomes less reliant on the counseling practitioner and starts to depend on his own awareness. The victim becomes self- motivated and able to solve his own challenges even without assistance from the counselor.The victim gains self-confidence at the end of the phase. In addition to this, the information concerning the management of the endings is found at the final most ending of this phase.
Summary
From the session I attended, I can summarize the counseling process to the youth as follows:
Counselling is a matter of establishing a therapeutic relationship, being advice giver and problem solver.
From session it can be deduced that counseling process is composed of three phases
The phases are dependent on each other.
The fate of the victim lays in the hands of the counselor practitioner.
Works cited
Hirschi, Andreas. “The career resources model: An integrative framework for career counsellors.” British Journal of Guidance & Counselling 40.4 (2012): 369-383.
Nelken, David. “13. When is a society non-punitive? The Italian case.” The new punitiveness (2013): 218.